Being you

It's a difficult task, I know. Being yourself, and not letting the rest of the world discuss which parts of you are okay and which need to be changed is positively herculean. I know I come off as terribly individualistic, like nobody else's opinion matters a dime, but everyone has their weak points and it takes someone you love to really hammer at them. And I do not mean that in a good way. However, it also takes someone you love to fix all of this.

And what I discovered is that being individualistic is not all wrong. It doesn't mean I'm selfish. Just because I'm aloof, doesn't mean I'm cold. Just because I don't call you every other day, doesn't mean I don't care. The point is, the most I can be is me. I can only try to meet my own standards. Fulfilling everybody else's expectations is not my prerogative. I can try, but there are too many people, and truth be told, the only person I really need to live with for the rest of my life, is myself. So, if I'm not happy with myself, then that's the only reason worth changing myself for. And if you think that being happy with yourself is easy, you're wrong. It's much harder than meeting any other expectations. If you think change is required, it can't be a superficial change, there's no hiding the truth from yourself. Try it and see for yourself.

As for the rest of the world, if you fail to change, there isn't much they can do. Of course, they will have an opinion about it, but here's a tip for that: There are few opinions that really matter, and it's up to you to decide which ones do.

So learn to love yourself, don't wait for someone to fix you and make you worth loving.